Being a non- drinker i tried to be an advocate to my children. I believe they can only attest to one time ever having seen me drink. I would have never thought I would one day had children who would have had issues with abuse. Yet for one reason or another it happens. no one is immune.
Having said that it breaks a mothers heart to see their child dependent on something that clearly is destroying their life. As a parent you never want to see your child hurting. You do anything to protect them and keep them safe. To see their life spiraling out of control and theirs nothing you can do is the greatest pain a parent can have. You start to question where you went wrong? What you should have done differently? And how in the world can you help and make it all stop?
I can say this.... Their is nothing I found that works until they are ready to quit! You are not in control. They are not in control. I can say, and trust me this one is hard, you cannot be the enabler. This was the hardest for me to learn. I was not helping the situation by pretending it was going to get better.
Several times I thought my daughter hit her rock bottom and just when mom came to the rescue we were off and running again.
Then one day I received a call out of no where. My daughter was asking questions about treatment. I was pleased and actually relieved. However, just like in the past I was disappointed when shed find more excuses to continue on and pretend it wasn't that bad. In her eyes she didn't have a problem.
It wasn't until her boyfriend came to us and as a family we learned to stand up to this illness together that she finally relized their was a problem.
That day finally came when she put herself in treatment. After just a week she was learning of all the hurt she had kept inside and the effects it had not on just herself but others around her. She underwent treatment for 4 months. As each day, week and month passed we regained our daughter.
She started to enjoy life again. As she continues her sobriety we couldn't be more proud of her and the woman she has become. I have my daughter back. Here she is at a suprise party the family threw for her after graduating treatment.